Wow, has it really been four years? On one hand I feel like we JUST got married. But on the other hand I feel like we’ve been married forever. Maybe because we started dating at such a young age (15) so I can’t clearly recall much of what life was like before Kolby. Especially since I blocked out age 11-14 due to a terrible case of braces and bad bangs.
I honestly can’t put into words how amazing it is to be married to Kolby. He’s my best friend, my partner in EVERYTHING, and most of all—he makes me happy. He has such a positive and joyful spirit; I am so blessed to wake up every day to live life alongside someone as great as him.
In honor of our fourth anniversary, I want to list four of my favorite things about my husband extraordinaire. I could go on about his character, his love for the Lord, or any other more serious matter, but I’ll keep it light here.
1. He is wicked smart. Intelligence wasn’t really on my radar screen when I was in 9th grade and on the hunt for the next boy to have a crush on. I don’t know what was on my radar screen, but I imagine it was mainly availability for the homecoming dance and willingness to accept the aforementioned bangs situation. So I guess it was just luck that I happened to fall for (and subsequently date and marry) an incredibly smart guy. Kolby is the smartest person I know. I know people who are smarter than him in certain fields, but Kolby has more broad-based knowledge about everything than anyone else I’ve ever met. I think it’s because he’s such an avid reader. Or maybe he was just born that smart. Either way, it is such a luxury for me, and I don’t think I can even describe why it’s so great. It makes him a great communicator and he always knows exactly what I’m thinking even when I can’t articulate it well. I wish I could say that being around him makes me smarter, but I don’t think it really does because I like being difficult. Exhibit 1, a conversation we had in the car the other day. He was in the middle of giving me a hard time (jokingly) for always mixing up common sayings or using words incorrectly.
K: “You have quite a propensity for aphorisms.”
E: “I don’t know what that word means.”
K: “It means fondness.”
E: “Not that word. Good grief, how do you think I wouldn’t know what propensity means!?!” (it’s an economics term)
K: “Oh. An aphorism is like an idiom.”
E: “Then why didn’t you just say idiom?”
[Let the record show what we don’t usually have such dorky conversations. My brothers will disagree, and add this to their list of reasons why Kolby and I are the lamest people they know.]
Being smart also makes Kolby super witty. That brings me to the next item on the list…
2. He is outrageously funny. Kolby and I have our own brand of humor around our house, and he totally nails it. Flawlessly quoting funny TV show lines in the most fitting moment is the definition of my kind of humor, and Kolby is truly gifted at it. He’s also just generally really, really funny and makes me laugh every single day. And he’s gotten a lot funnier over time. Or maybe I just find him funnier now. Either way, he’s a hoot and it’s one of my favorite things about him.
3. He is a teacher. I LOVE that Kolby teaches. It’s such a great fit for him and he is so stinkin’ talented at it. But there are also a lot of selfish reasons why I love that he teaches. To start, it makes him happy and it doesn’t really stress him out. To be able to say that about the occupation of your spouse is quite rare and is a tremendous blessing. He comes home in a good mood every day. He’s also home by 5pm. He (generally) doesn’t bring work home with him. Kolby has my full support in anything that he chooses to do with his life in the future, but I have to say that nothing would please me more than for him to teach forever. I just love how much time it allows for us to spend together. Another selfish reason why I love that he teaches is that with my job I’m often meeting new people and they usually ask what my husband does, and I absolutely love getting to tell people that he’s a teacher. I think teaching is one of the most important jobs anyone can have, and I swell with pride to talk about what Kolby does and what an amazing talent he has for shaping the minds and hearts of students.
4. He has a joyful spirit. That is mainly just a fancy way of saying that he is a really happy person. He is always in a chipper mood and it’s contagious. He jokes around all the time and keeps things positive. One of my favorite things about this quality is that he laughs out loud a lot. I’d like to think I’m a very happy person as well, but it takes a lot for me to laugh out loud. I find a lot of things funny, but more of a laugh on the inside or let out a little chuckle kind of funny. But Kolby? He belly laughs at things he finds really funny. A couple nights ago we were lying in bed and he was reading aloud from his iPhone this web article entitled “When Animals Run Attack Ads,” and he was cracking up at it. I didn’t think it was that funny, but watching him laugh so hard was seriously endearing.
Happy anniversary, honey!
You have my heart.